August Things

August was really good to me. (I wrote that sentence the other day and am now sick for the second time in three weeks, but I stand by my statement.)

Often times you don't realize that changes are taking place until they already have and you're looking back at how different things are. But now, in a weird way, I can actually feel things changing as it's happening. I can feel myself growing, becoming more independent. I also tend to have this gut feeling (maybe it developed as part of the whole growing up thing) that, even if things go wrong, everything is eventually going to work itself out. Everything is going to be okay.

Here are some things I've been enjoying lately:

— "The Gift," if only because Jason Bateman is one of the best. I saw it the night it came out and LOVED it. If you're into thriller/suspense movies, definitely check this one out. Two things I really liked about it were how natural and realistic the dialogue was and that you were still left guessing at the end.

— Cara Delevingne announced that she's leaving the fashion world, turning her focus more toward film. Her reasoning for this is what I find so great: working in fashion didn't allow her to grow. Since working more on film, she says she's been better at standing up for herself. You go, girl.

— This article about how a woman met with her financial advisor and had her whole perspective changed when she was told that her options were to work more, save more, or want less.

— Currently reading: "We Need to Talk About Kevin" by Lionel Shriver.

— "Mindy Kaling's Guide to Killer Confidence" because she's a girlboss. The concept of hating yourself, emphasizing all of your flaws and referring to yourself in negative ways has become so glorified. But what's attractive about a person who hates who are they are and does nothing to fix it?
"People's reaction to me is sometimes 'Uch, I just don't like her. I hate how she thinks she is so great.' But it's not that I think I'm so great. I just don't hate myself."
This post from Becoming Minimalist about how we are all influential people and have the power to change lives.

— "Candidly Nicole" has become one of my favorite shows to watch during the week. Nicole Richie's hair and clothes are everything.

— The fact that Taylor Swift sang "Smelly Cat" with Lisa Kudrow on stage in L.A. Could that BE any more awesome?

Happy Dunkin Donuts pumpkin spice day!

On Acceptance

Acceptance is important in any and every relationship — accepting a person for who they are. This does not mean you have to like every single aspect about a person (that would be highly unlikely); you just have to accept them, flaws and all, the good and the bad. (Now, if you're friends with somebody or in a relationship of some sort, it's implied that you accept them and they accept you. However, sometimes we learn the hard way that this isn't the case, though it should be.)

When I think about this idea, there are two things that come to mind, both of which make me internally scream YES! whenever I see them again.

The Most Magical Place On Earth

After about a week and a half of knowing that I was taking a trip to Florida but still not quite believing it was actually happening, it happened.


Let me tell you something — you can't expect other people to be in charge of your happiness. Your friends should care about you, of course, but your happiness is up to you. Everyone has their own problems to deal with and obstacles to get over that they just don't have the energy to take on anyone else's. You can complain and vent all you want (the good ones will actually listen, but let's not overdo it), but oftentimes that's as far as you'll get. It sucks. Oh well.

So, you have to take your happiness into your own hands.

As I mentioned in my last post, I've been in a bit of a funk lately; feeling weirdly sad because of some reasons but also for no reason at all. If I was out, I wanted to be back at home. If I was home, I was wishing I was out somewhere. Part of that is just me being me, but another was never feeling satisfied or fully happy — and I just didn't know why.

Yesterday, that all (finally) changed. I guess I was right about August being a new beginning.

July Things

I've been in a weird funk lately. Early mornings, busy days, little sleep, and having to put more than a paycheck's worth of money toward my car. Not the best. But now it's August, which means we are one step closer to fall, my favorite season. Another new beginning.

Despite my busy days, I've still been able to see my friends a lot, which makes me happy. I spent a day in the city with my friend Jade eating good food and seeing her new workplace. I went to a bonfire and caught up with some friends I haven't seen in a while. I've also gone to the movies more than I have in the past year probably.

So now, here are some of my favorite things from the past month:

— Not using the word "just." I came across an article a few weeks ago that discussed how using this "permission" word can be a "subtle message of subordination, of deference." I thought it was really interesting, and it made me realize how much I use the word, especially in work emails. Since then, I've been very aware of it and have tried to use it less.

Broad City was one of my greatest discoveries, and Ilana Wexler is queen. If you watch the show, you're familiar with her infamous criss-cross bralette style. After wanting one for months, I finally bought one and am in love.

— I've been doing yoga for at least three years now, but have been gotten more into lately, going 2-3 times per week. If you ask me, finding a good yoga teacher is just as important as finding a good doctor, dentist, etc.

— I'm not a big lipstick wearer because I usually feel like it looks weird on me, but I am loving e.l.f. matte lip color. I have it in "rich red," which has definitely upped my Taylor Swift game.

— "The Introvert's Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World." After writing about being an introvert, I ordered this book off Amazon. I'm not too far into yet but look forward to reading more. Sophia Dembling does a great job of putting the introvert's thoughts into very accurate words.

— John Green's response to Cara Delevingne's painfully awkward interview, "But Did You Read The Book?" He makes some great points in Cara's defense. Most interestingly, he mentions that Nat Wolff was usually asked when he read the book, whereas Cara was asked if she read the book.

Now, I am welcoming August with open arms.