Thursday, August 6, 2015

Let me tell you something — you can't expect other people to be in charge of your happiness. Your friends should care about you, of course, but your happiness is up to you. Everyone has their own problems to deal with and obstacles to get over that they just don't have the energy to take on anyone else's. You can complain and vent all you want (the good ones will actually listen, but let's not overdo it), but oftentimes that's as far as you'll get. It sucks. Oh well.

So, you have to take your happiness into your own hands.

As I mentioned in my last post, I've been in a bit of a funk lately; feeling weirdly sad because of some reasons but also for no reason at all. If I was out, I wanted to be back at home. If I was home, I was wishing I was out somewhere. Part of that is just me being me, but another was never feeling satisfied or fully happy — and I just didn't know why.

Yesterday, that all (finally) changed. I guess I was right about August being a new beginning.

Let me tell you something else — it's good to have friends who push you to do things. While arranging a trip for next weekend, the plan jumped from Let's drive to Michigan to What if we flew to Florida in five minutes. After about an hour of screenshots of flight times and prices, excited and hesitant audio messages, and asking her about 100 times if she really read the fine print, Jade wore me down. So Florida, here I come!

I'm always conflicted about saving versus spending. The mindset of Why spend money when I could rack up my savings instead? versus Why let money stop me from having fun and living life? But the thing is that while saving money is a good thing, if you're not saving for anything except a vague obligation, then it's worthless. We need to remind ourselves that it's okay to spend money (and sometimes even necessary, TO GET US OUT OF THAT FUNK!). Work hard for your money and then make it count.

So when you're in a funk that you feel you can't get out of, do some yoga, eat ice cream for dinner, and book a flight to Florida. That's what I did.

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