Flowers Don't Bloom Year-Round

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Believe it or not, I don't always take my own advice. I learn what works for me and then I don't always follow it.

One night, at 9 p.m. on a Sunday, I posted to my Instagram story about how I know that addressing my to-do list first is what's best for me. I know I'll feel better if I get my tasks done and then relax. Still, time and time again, I don't do it. I put it off and then end up staying up too late, being too tired, trying to get things done, like cooking at 9 p.m. on a Sunday.

A friend of mine responded to my post saying she's the same way. I was surprised, because she's one of those people who seems to really have her shit together. What does she mean she also has trouble prioritizing and gets crabby about her own procrastination?

I told her this. I told her that if I can relate to her, then that bodes well for me.

Her response has been in the forefront of my mind ever since:

"Having your act together is half truth / half illusion. Who can be their best version all the time? Flowers don't bloom year-round."

Well well well. Turns out we all struggle from time to time, huh? Why is that so easy to forget?

Having your act together is half truth / half illusion.

Do we need another reminder that social media is a highlight reel? Couldn't hurt. If it seems like a person has their shit together, maybe they do, or maybe it just seems like that online. Maybe it's a bit of both.

Remember that everyone has their own struggles that they aren't talking about. The person you admire most for having it all figured it out is probably secretly just winging it.

Who can be their best version all the time?

No one. The answer is freakin' no one. It's unrealistic. Give yourself a break. You can't be 100 percent all the time.

Two Sundays ago I was feeling very anxious for no reason, and I'm proud of myself because I let myself feel it and that's it. I didn't freak out. I didn't convince myself I'm a terrible person because of it. I let myself feel all the shitty feelings and then I forgave myself for sitting in a chair for two hours doing nearly nothing and continued on.

This little tidbit from my friend was a big factor in helping me through it, too, because I reminded myself: you don't have to be your best self right now. It's okay.

Flowers don't bloom year-round.

The bottom line to it all and some of the best advice I've received. She heard it from a friend once, said it to me, and now I'm passing it along. Because isn't it great?

Even the most beautiful flowers have their off-seasons. We can be the same way. We might have those particular hours, days, times of the year where we function less great than others. We aren't any less beautiful then. It's just our off-season.

I think we all want permission to slip up every now and then. This is yours.

Embrace who you are, what you're feeling, and the progress you're making. It's okay if you get stuck in a funk for a while. It's normal. Eventually, it will be your time to bloom.

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